Is Feminism Trendy? If So, Am I Just a Bandwagoner?

“I believe in gender equality, but you can’t deny that there’s sexism against men in society, as well.” (-Me, c. 2007) “We know, and unlike you, we’re actually trying to do something about it.” (-Every feminist, ever) If you’ve been on the internet lately, you know that a lot of people regularly post about Feminism….

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Respect the Dixie Chicks’ Gangsta

I love rap music for the wordplay and rhythm but am very turned off by the misogyny. When I perform Notorious B.I.G. or Snoop Dogg at karaoke night, I’m just as likely to omit the B word as I am the N word. As a white man, I really have no business saying either word,…

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The D Word

It’s the four-letter word every actor fears being called above all else. It has its sexist undertones but is often used to describe men, too. I don’t say it. I don’t even know what it means or how it started. OK, I know how it started (it’s derived from Latin), but I don’t know why…

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The Pay-It-Forward Cycle of Victim-Blaming

I’ve always been interested in foreign languages, but I always hated taking foreign language classes in school. The main thing I hated wasn’t the teaching style; it was the “foreign names” they gave us. When I took Elementary School Spanish, my name was “Jorge,” which is a very common name that happens to sound like…

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The Pay-It-Forward Cycle of Bullying

I was bullied as a kid, and I bullied others as a kid. You’d think that, when another person made me feel pathetic and worthless, I would remember that feeling and never want to make another human being feel that way. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work like that. I couldn’t wait to dish out what had…

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Gender Straitjackets

In 2002, I saw Hairspray on Broadway twice. Today, it’s not even in my top 10 Broadway plays, but when it first came out, I was smitten, and I didn’t care that it was “for girls.” In fact, that was a big part of what I liked about it. It was my way of exercising…

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Male Guilt (Why I’m NOT An MRA)

I’m not Tiresias; the only things I know about being a woman are the things women have told me.And the main thing I’ve been told is: when you’re a woman, you feel it all the time. You wake up knowing you’re a woman. You look in the mirror and see a woman. When you get…

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